Does your path have a heart?


Mother Teresa once said: "In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love."


Spending time around the holidays with family can be stressful. Being with friends often makes us feel better and enjoy the moment without pressure or judgment. Choosing to step out of or avoid the difficult holiday events will be empowering!

Just follow your path of heart...

A path of heart means one that touches you in the center of your being. This simple question will keep you focused on your path of making decisions that reflect what you most deeply value...honesty, acceptance, tolerance, compassion, love, kindness.

If you want to know more deeply what gives meaning to a path of heart for you, one must reflect on one's death. I know that sounds morbid but stick with me here...

Sit quietly and imagine yourself to be at the end of your life -and bring to mind ONE good deed that you have done, one thing that you did that made a difference to others. It need not be grandiose. In picturing and remembering this good deed also ask yourself and be aware of how it makes you feel. Almost everyone who is able to remember such a deed discovers it to be remarkably simple.

The things that matter most in our lives are not always HUGE or seen by everyone. They are the moments when we touch one another, when we are there in the most attentive or caring way. These moments of touching and being touched can become a foundation for a path with heart. And around the holidays will be rewarding and full of love!

Often when people come to the end of their lives and look back, the questions that they most often ask ARE NOT usually, "How much is in my bank account?" or "How many books did I write?" or "What did I build?". They are more simple questions like: "Did I love well?" "Did I live fully?" "Did I learn to let go?"

We don't know how much time we have. So what would it be like to live with the knowledge that this may be our last year, our last week, our last holiday season, and our last day?

In light of this question, I want you to choose a path with heart. Hold yourself accountable for being an unselfish person sometimes, making a difference to others. But, always feeling it, what you do, how you affect others and what it feels like in your HEART!


Carolyn “CJ” Silas

Personal Coach

(805) 295-9151